About Me

When I trained to become a life coach one of the most powerful things I learned is that I get to be the author of my own story. I can choose to tell it, and live it, from any perspective I choose. I can tell my story as the victim or the hero. I can see the hurts and the strengths, see both the negatives and the positives - but decide who that makes me. Very few things in a story are a fact, most are just an interpretation. For a long time I saw many parts of my life from a "poor me" perspective, but I would not have all the tools, expertise and insight that make me a good coach without the life I have lived. And I love my life. I am incredibly grateful for my life. So now I like to think of my life like a character in a comic book who discovers she has special powers. Like so ...

I come from a super dysfunctional family: abuse, alcoholism, co-dependency, depression, suicide. What this means now is that I've spent a whole lotta years figuring out how family members relate to each other; how to recover from a manipulative and controlling mother; how to accept an absent and immature father; how self-protective measures used in childhood become self-limiting beliefs in adulthood; how to re-parent myself and have functional adult relationships. This has given me super-powers! I can smell guilt trips from miles away and I refuse to take those trips! My bullshit detector for self-pitying, self-defeating beliefs and behaviours is like x-ray vision for the soul!

I've moved a lot. I went to nine schools in nine years. I've lived in four different countries (Canada, the US, Spain, and Mexico) and six different cities. I speak 3.5 languages. I've had to pack and unpack a lot. I've made lots of friends and said lots of goodbyes. I've been the new girl many, many times. I felt like an outsider/observer for a great deal of my youth. All of this has given me super-communication powers! I help lost tourists! Kids and teens love talking to me (and I to them)! I can strike up a conversation with anyone, anywhere! People tell me their deepest stuff when I meet them! And I have super-outsider vision that lets me see situations and motivations keenly and clearly!

I was sick a lot through most of my life with chronic illness. I missed a lot of school. I read a lot of books. I took a lot of medication and got a lot of bad advice - mostly from doctors. I had to learn to really listen to my body so I became a super-detective of my own suffering and now I can really hear my body! And heal my body! Now I help people discover their own super-healing powers! And I'm not allergic to cats (like I used to believe)! So I'm a super-cat-lover!

I've had a lot of relationships. I've had so many friends. Childhood friends, girls and boys. Mean friends and sweet friends. High school friends, girls and boys. Jealous friends and loyal friends. I have adult friends, women and men. Dancing friends and helpful friends. I've dated lots. I've fallen in love lots. I've had my heart broken lots - demolished a few times - and have broken a few along the way. I've had relationship therapy good and bad. Now I have the power of teaching people how really understand each other so that they can have the right kind of relationships with each other. 

I've had a lot of jobs. My first job was in a steel factory when I was 18. I'm not kidding - Flashdance! I've worked in hair salons, I've worked with lawyers and bankers. I've been a high school teacher at a high-risk school. I've performed as a swing dancer live and on TV more times than I can count. I've run my own dance studio and taught countless kids and adults how to partner dance. This is perhaps my most amazing power - I show people they can do anything! I've taught lots of people who were convinced they'd never be able to dance, but they did. And after that, the sky's the limit!

And this is the essence of what I believe about life. Belief drives action. And you can change your beliefs. If you believe you can't dance, you won't try. If you once believed you couldn't dance but learned how, what other limiting beliefs might be wrong? I never thought I'd be a Solid Gold dancer. I was wrong.

I'm constantly learning about life and myself, and passing along what I find out so that we can all enjoy life more. Not a bad super power! KA-POW!