September 30, 2013

You are a great problem solver!

Many of us spend time worrying about things that haven't even happened yet - often lots of time. With the result that even if there is nothing wrong right now, we feel fearful, sad, and crappy.

What I would like to remind you of is that you are a great problem solver!

When you have an actual, right now problem you take steps to solve it. You marshal your immediate resources - your cordless drill, the chips in the cupboard, your dog - and get on it! You ask for help if you can't solve it all yourself. You engage your friends or hire an expert. And you get it done!

You can't do this with future problems that haven't happened yet, but you can have a shitty time waiting for them to arise or coming up with phantom solutions that don't give you any relief because they're not real. 

How about just know that problems will arise. And you will deal with them. And help will be there if you need it.

I always say, if you're gonna predict the future, you've gotta make it good.

September 19, 2013

Goodies from Week 1

We are almost always seeking a feeling state from the things we want.

But we can calm ourselves and achieve the gooey-good feelings by spending time imagining that we already have what we want. This also makes it much more likely to happen.

"Thank you, I quit."   "It is written."   "Let it be done."

These are all powerful invocations that create a sense of belief and well-being.

So what are you going to spend some time imagining you have daily for the next week?

September 16, 2013

Join me in my living room

I woke up very energized and excited this morning because this is the week that I get to dive into Steering By Starlight by Martha Beck with a session for two of my nearest and dearest, and a session on Wednesday nights for some people who are mostly new to me.

I love this book, I love watching people free themselves from doubt and discouragement, and I love what I get to learn about myself. I'm just to happy that this is the work/play that I get to do. And it's a crazy and wonderful circle because this is the book that brought me to this place in my life.

There are a couple of comfortable seats left in my living room if you're interested in joining me on Wednesday.

September 09, 2013

Rachel's found more peace

I love it when people tell me how taking Jump Start Your Life has impacted them. Because I can see what happens from my perspective, and I get to see amazing changes - but what is happening on the inside is so much more powerful. Thank you Rachel for sharing your story!!

"I can honestly say, without hesitation, that Jessica's course has been a valuable and fruitful experience. I signed up for the course primarily to a) chart a new career path more closely aligned to my passions and desired lifestyle, and b) find a group of peers for support as I am relatively new to Toronto.

Mission accomplished? Well, yes. Every week I met with this fantastic group of people who provided moral support to one another in a safe environment, without judgement. Thoughts, information and ideas were exchanged. There was plenty of encouragement. And of course chocolate! As a group, we tended to feed off one another's momentum. It was fantastic! And a constant reminder that one need not face life's challenges alone.

As for my career path? Well, prior to the course I was very scattered and lacking in focus. I knew I did not want to be an administrator in a bland office cubicle for the rest of my life, but I also knew I had a lot of untapped potential and passions to explore. My problem was I had absolutely no idea what to pursue, how to more forward, or get out of my rut. I was frustrated.

Now, I'm happy to report that I actually have a plan. Having said that, I also have a better attitude toward uncertainty as well. For me, this was half the battle!

Jessica, with a very steady hand and sharp intuition, walked us through exercises that provided the tools necessary to recognize our limiting thoughts and fears as well as keep them at bay. This not only helped clarify my desires and goals, but also helped me come to a place of calm. As a person who has struggled with severe anxiety (and health problems as a result), I am now far better equipped to realize my plan. And if, for whatever reason my plan falls through or derails, I will not beat myself up about it. I will not feel like a failure. I will not have anxiety attacks about what comes next.

I would say this greater sense of overall peace I have achieved from participating in these sessions has been the biggest reward for me. I am less phased by day-to-day situations or encounters with people I once found to be irritating or annoying. I am more in control of my thoughts and the feelings that arise from them. This is powerful stuff! I cannot emphasize enough how liberating this feels - like an albatross has been cut loose from my neck. It takes some time, but with Jessica's guidance and an open mind you can get there too!

Through it all Jessica is a solid, perceptive, caring and effective guide. She is extremely dedicated and passionate about her work and it shows. She has far exceeded my already high expectations and I highly recommend taking her course. You will be glad you did."

** all photos by Rachel

September 04, 2013

Celebrating One Year of Jump Starts!!

I started my first Jump Start Your Life group one year ago this month. And holy WOW have people's lives changed. Anne has a new job working with delightful people. Candice finally took a vacation and is creating concrete plans for an art show. Julia has launched White Squirrel Cards. Michelle quit her soul-sucking job and is pursuing her big dream of touring Asia. And Steph left her dull corporate job and started at the Ontario College of Art & Design yesterday!
Candice, Steph & Julia
I started this course because I wanted to share what I'd learned with the dear people around me who I knew were struggling with things that were holding them back from their dreams and the lives they really wanted. And you know what, it works. It really works. Steph just sent the group this quick update:

Steph's first year self-portrait - it's needlepoint!
"I just wanted to mention that today was my first day at school and it went very well! I met some lovely people; I was moved by our keynote speaker who read a poem about OCAD and the students here; and got some free art supplies! Tomorrow, I get to have breakfast with my student mentor as well as the other mentors and mentees to prep for my upcoming classes. If it wasn't for this course, none of these experiences would be happening. I am very grateful."

I am so grateful that Steph and the others joined me a year ago, and that we are in fact continuing on this journey as group members keep coming back for more support. We're on Part 3 now! The group continues to make magic and offer the most incredible support to one another. Julia said to me the other day, "you should tell people that this group solves problems in 4 minutes, because it does, it's amazing" - so I'm telling ya.

Come join me and let's see what you're life looks like a year from now!